When you start dating someone, there are some important things you should to know before things get serious... because you never know who you're going to fall in love with. Plus, nobody wants to waste their time dating someone who they know isn't the right one — especially if they're getting to "that age" where marriage is in the air and all around.
This is why many people have chosen to do their search via online dating sites, because they don't have to waste time looking for a person who doesn't have most important qualities and values they're looking for. Online dating sites can help narrow down your search — but online dating definitely isn't for everyone.
Plus, there are too many times when a person's profile doesn't exactly match up with their true self (and I'm not just referring to the photo).
So before you do fall in love with someone, don't you first want to make sure they are someone you would want to fall in love with? I will assume the answer is yes, but some people prefer to just "go with it" and like the hunt.
However, most people don't want to go through multiple relationships, don't want to waste time, and only want to get in a relationship with someone after they've gotten to know them well and seem like a great fit.
So, why is it a big deal to learn the important things about someone before you get serious?
If you find out they have a lot of qualities that you dislike, can't live with, or start waving bright "red flags" early on, then you can end it before things get serious...or before they become anything at all.
If you find out they have a lot of qualities that you dislike, can't live with, or start waving bright "red flags" early on, then you can end it before things get serious...or before they become anything at all.
This will save yourself from wasting time, from heartbreak, or from finding out later down the road about these qualities when it might be too late.
Disclaimer: Some of these tips are simply topics to get to know your date. Others you may consider important factors in the longevity of dating that person. You have to make that decision for yourself.
Disclaimer: Some of these tips are simply topics to get to know your date. Others you may consider important factors in the longevity of dating that person. You have to make that decision for yourself.
General / Everyday Life
- Hobbies:
- Passions:
- Fears/nervous about:
- Dislikes:
- Pet peeves:
This or That
(if
both, explain)
- Introvert or extrovert?
- People person or enjoy “me” time?
- Clean freak or laid back?
- Social butterfly or home body?
- Early bird or night owl?
- Active or relaxed?
- Indoor or outdoor person?
- Planner or procrastinator?
- Conservative or liberal?
- Frugal or shopper/prefers new stuff?
- Work-a-holic or play time?
- Sensitive or thick-skinned?
Getting
to Know You
- What are your future ambitions and goals? Where do you see yourself in the next 5 years? (Bonus: talk about goals for future marriage/family, find out if they are interested in starting a family, if family is important, etc.)
- Name at least 5 things on your bucket list.
- Are you religious? If so, what denomination/religion do you practice? (Bonus: tell your testimonials of faith)
- What things always make you happy or put you in a good
mood? (deeds, people, foods, music, activity, hobby, etc)
- What things really stress you out?
- What do you do to de-stress?
- Do you have any current physical, mental, or other issues I
should know about?
- What are your favorite things to do on the weekend?
- What personal values and principles are most important to you?
- Using 3 words, how would you describe yourself? How would your friends/family describe yourself?
- Describe your family. (important to know if they value their family and how they view their parent's..."if you marry them, you marry the whole family")
- What would you say are your greatest (non-professional) strengths? And weaknesses?